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“Delivering Dreams”

You can build the family of your dreams and we are proud and excited to get you started and be an integral part of this magical journey with you.  Welcome!

Most people long to have a family and that does not exclude the LBGTQ community.  Unfortunately until a few years ago there has been so much discrimination facing the LGBTQ community regarding adoption and surrogacy.  We applaud the people, states and government for opening this door to parenthood. Surrogacy has become increasingly common, accepted and inclusive for same-sex couples.

There are two (2) types of Surrogacy…Gestational and Traditional

In the State of Florida, unless you are married, Gestational Surrogacy is not an option; however, Traditional Surrogacy is.  Having a partner does not change this law. 

LGBTQ Surrogacy Process

The surrogacy process is essentially the same as other surrogacy processes.  This gives gay men and lesbian couples the option of being biologically connected to their child.  Surrogacy is achieved either by using an egg or sperm donor.

Decisions that need to be made should be discussed, thought about and agreed upon prior to beginning the process:

  1. Who will be genetically related to the child…whose egg or sperm?  You do have the option of choosing multiple eggs to transfer to the surrogate using the sperm or eggs of both partners which allows either one or both of them to be the biological father/mother of the child.

  2. You can also use an identified or anonymous donor or one partner’s sperm with eggs from a relative of the other partner giving both a genetic link to the baby.  This is true with lesbian couples too.

After these decisions have been agreed upon, the intended parents can move forward with the surrogacy process.

Laws of Surrogacy

Surrogacy is not legal in all states so it’s important you learn about your state’s laws.  Florida is a Surrogacy friendly state. 

Earlier, I mentioned that the LGBTQ community is only eligible to partake in the Traditional Surrogacy process.  That is the law in Florida.  What impact does this have?  The surrogate will be implanted with an embryo and carry, labor and deliver the baby as in the Gestational Surrogacy process.  The difference is that the couple will enter into a pre-adoption agreement.  If the relationship is not sealed by marriage, only one of the two will be able to enter into the agreement. This agreement will be written and negotiated by your attorney.  Once the baby is born, the surrogate’s name will be on the birth certificate and she will be considered the legal parent of the child.  She will relinquish her rights within 48 hours after birth and you will begin the adoption process and adopt the baby.  Only one of the intended partners can enter into the pre-adoption agreement if they are single and not married.  It’s that parent that will adopt the baby.  The other partner will adopt the child once the adoption is finalized by the intended parent.

Be sure to work with an experienced professional and/or attorney or both that is familiar with the state surrogacy laws as to navigate the legal process with their expertise.

What you need to consider as a gay couple?

Surrogacy is not for everyone. As with anyone else, there are benefits and challenges of the process that need to be considered. 

Yes…

·         Surrogacy fulfills your dreams of completing your family!

·         Surrogacy allows you to have a biological link to one or both of you!

·         Many surrogates are very interested in helping same-sex couples become parents through surrogacy!

But…

·         Surrogacy is a legally complicated process that can be more difficult for same-sex couples, depending on your state law.

·         The cost of surrogacy is challenging and there are fewer financing options for intended parents than adoptive parents. (we can offer options for you)

·         You can experience discrimination from not only professionals but others.

You are not alone.  Heterosexual couples need to think about these as well when devising their surrogacy plan and goals.

Other considerations

  • Choose professionals that are open to working with same-sex couples. 

  • Although there has been an increasing acceptance of diverse families, you may still experience discriminatory remarks, comments etc. once your baby is home.  Be prepared for that.  As an adoptive mother, I dealt with them myself.  They hurt and are totally uncalled for.  You’ll get through them but be prepared.

  • Be prepared to discuss with your child, as he/she gets older, where they came from and talking about surrogacy can be a challenge.  Just be prepared and think about it.  You have a few years before this will come up.

  • HIV positive people can have healthy children through surrogacy and there’s no risk of transmission to the baby or the gestational carrier. There are many organizations that help same-sex HIV+ couples have a healthy baby.

Final Thoughts

You can expand your family through Surrogacy.  You can fulfill your dreams of being a genetically linked family and bringing a child into your lives.

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